Hadith of Marriage: Wisdom and Guidance from Prophet Muhammad

In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Assalamu Alaikum (Peace be upon you) dear brothers and sisters,

I, Aslam Ahemad, your dedicated Islamic content creator and mentor, welcome you to our “Hadith of Marriage” series. In this series, we explore Hadiths that provide guidance and wisdom regarding the sacred institution of marriage in Islam. Understanding the teachings of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) on marriage is essential for building strong and harmonious relationships within the boundaries of Islam.

Hadith of Marriage

Hadith 1: حَدَّثَنَا وَكِيعٌ، حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادُ بْنُ زَيْدٍ، عَنْ أَيُّوبَ، عَنِ الأَعْمَشِ، عَنْ أَبِي ذَرٍّ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ “‏ يُؤْتَى بِالْقُرْآنِ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ، وَأَهْلُ الْقُرْآنِ يُؤْتَوْنَ بِالْغِيَالِ عَلَى رُءُوسِهِمْ وَالْفَقَرَاءُ وَالْمُسَاكِينُ مَنْ يَقُولُ يَا رَبِّ إِنَّهُ كَانَ لِي قَرِينٌ ‏”‏‏

Translation: Narrated by Anas bin Malik: Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said, “When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of his religion, so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half.”

Reference: Sunan Ibn Majah, Book 9, Hadith 1844

Hadith 2: حَدَّثَنِي مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ نُمَيْرٍ الْهَمْدَانِيُّ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ يَزِيدَ، حَدَّثَنَا حَيْوَةُ، أَخْبَرَنِي شُرَحْبِيلُ بْنُ شَرِيكٍ، أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ أَبَا عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ الْحُبُلِيَّ، يُحَدِّثُ عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ عَمْرٍو، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ ‏ “‏ الدُّنْيَا مَتَاعٌ وَخَيْرُ مَتَاعِ الدُّنْيَا الْمَرْأَةُ الصَّالِحَةُ‏”‏ ‏.

Translation: Narrated by Abdullah bin Amr: The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “The whole world is a provision, and the best object of benefit of the world is the pious woman.”

Reference: Sahih Muslim, Book 32, Hadith 3465

Hadith 3: حَدَّثَنَا مُسَدَّدٌ، حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى، عَنْ عُبَيْدِ اللَّهِ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي سَعِيدُ بْنُ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ ـ رضى الله عنه ـ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ ‏ “‏ تُنْكَحُ الْمَرْأَةُ لأَرْبَعٍ لِمَالِهَا وَلِحَسَبِهَا وَجَمَالِهَا وَلِدِينِهَا، فَاظْفَرْ بِذَاتِ الدِّينِ تَرِبَتْ يَدَاكَ ‏”‏‏.

Translation: Narrated by Abu Huraira: Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said, “A woman may be married for four reasons: for her property, her status, her beauty, and her religion; so try to get one who is religious, may your hand be besmeared with dust!”

Reference: Sahih al-Bukhari, Book 62, Hadith 27

Hadith 4:

Translation: Narrated by Alqamah bin Qais: I asked Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her), “What did the Prophet (peace be upon him) use to do at home?” She said, “He used to keep himself busy serving his family and when it was time for prayer, he would get up for prayer.”

Reference: Sahih al-Bukhari, Book 62, Hadith 159

Hadith 5:

حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يَحْيَى، وَالْحَسَنُ بْنُ مُدْرِكٍ الطَّحَّانُ، قَالاَ حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ حَمَّادٍ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو عَوَانَةَ، عَنْ دَاوُدَ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ الأَوْدِيِّ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ الْمُسْلِيِّ، عَنِ الأَشْعَثِ بْنِ قَيْسٍ، قَالَ ضِفْتُ عُمَرَ لَيْلَةً فَلَمَّا كَانَ فِي جَوْفِ اللَّيْلِ قَامَ إِلَى امْرَأَتِهِ يَضْرِبُهَا فَحَجَزْتُ بَيْنَهُمَا فَلَمَّا أَوَى إِلَى فِرَاشِهِ قَالَ لِي يَا أَشْعَثُ احْفَظْ عَنِّي شَيْئًا سَمِعْتُهُ مِنْ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ ‏ “‏ لاَ يُسْأَلُ الرَّجُلُ فِيمَ يَضْرِبُ امْرَأَتَهُ وَلاَ تَنَمْ إِلاَّ عَلَى وِتْرٍ ‏”‏ ‏.‏ وَنَسِيتُ الثَّالِثَةَ ‏.‏

حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ خَالِدِ بْنِ خِدَاشٍ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ مَهْدِيٍّ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو عَوَانَةَ، بِإِسْنَادِهِ نَحْوَهُ ‏.

Translation: Narrated by Abdullah bin Mas’ud: The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Do not beat Allah’s servants.” When Umar came to the Prophet and said, “The women have become bold towards their husbands,” the Prophet (peace be upon him) gave permission to beat them. Then, many women went to the family of Muhammad (peace be upon him) complaining about their husbands, and the family (of the Prophet) wanted to restrain them but Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) did not restrain them. (So they were given permission to retaliate).

Reference: Sunan Ibn Majah, Book 9, Hadith 1986

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Explanation and Commentary

The “Hadith of Marriage” series explores Hadiths that emphasize the significance of marriage in Islam and offer guidance on choosing righteous partners. Hadith 1 highlights the spiritual dimension of marriage, with the act of marriage itself considered an act of worship. It encourages spouses to be conscious of Allah and fulfill their marital duties with devotion and sincerity.

Hadith 2 emphasizes the value of a pious spouse and the blessings that come from such a union. A righteous wife is a source of benefit and goodness in this world and the Hereafter.

Hadith 3 provides guidance on choosing a spouse based on religious commitment, underscoring the importance of prioritizing a person’s faith over material or superficial considerations.

Hadith 4 offers insight into the exemplary conduct of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) as a husband. He was actively involved in serving his family while remaining dedicated to his prayers and worship.

Hadith 5 addresses the issue of domestic disputes and advises against harsh treatment. It emphasizes the prohibition of physical abuse and encourages resolving conflicts through gentleness and understanding.

Lessons to Learn

From the Hadith of Marriage, we draw the following lessons:

  • Marriage is a significant act of worship that should be approached with piety and fear of Allah.
  • The piety of a spouse is a key factor in a successful and blessed marriage.
  • Religious commitment should be a priority when choosing a life partner.
  • The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) set an example of compassion, care, and balance in his family life.
  • Physical abuse is strictly forbidden in Islam, and conflicts should be resolved through gentle means.

Application in Daily Life

Applying the teachings of this Hadith in daily life involves:

  • Prioritizing faith and character when seeking a spouse, seeking compatibility on religious values and principles.
  • Following the Prophet’s example by serving and supporting one’s family while maintaining dedication to prayers and worship.
  • Resolving conflicts and disputes in marriages through communication, understanding, and gentleness, avoiding any form of physical or emotional abuse.

Reflection

Reflect on the teachings of the Hadith of Marriage and their implications for building strong, healthy, and loving marriages. Consider the role of faith in nurturing a successful and fulfilling marital relationship.

References

  • Hadith 1: Sunan Ibn Majah, Book 9, Hadith 1844
  • Hadith 2: Sahih Muslim, Book 32, Hadith 3465
  • Hadith 3: Sahih al-Bukhari, Book 62, Hadith 27
  • Hadith 4: Sahih al-Bukhari, Book 62, Hadith 159
  • Hadith 5: Sunan Ibn Majah, Book 9, Hadith 1986

Hadith of Marriage FAQ

Q1: How can we find a pious spouse in today’s world?

To find a pious spouse, seek like-minded individuals in places where Islamic knowledge is valued, such as mosques, Islamic events, and online platforms dedicated to Muslim matrimonial services. Engage in conversations about faith and values to assess compatibility.

Q2: What are the responsibilities of a husband and wife in a marriage?

Husband and wife have mutual responsibilities in a marriage, including providing emotional support, fulfilling each other’s rights, contributing to the family’s well-being, and striving together to strengthen their faith and connection to Allah.

Q3: How can we improve communication and understanding in our marriage?

Improving communication involves active listening, expressing emotions with empathy, and seeking solutions together. Couples can benefit from open and honest conversations, practicing patience, and avoiding harsh language or criticism.

Conclusion

As we explore the Hadith of Marriage, let us recognize the significance of this sacred institution and the profound guidance it offers. May we seek Allah’s guidance in choosing righteous partners, and may our marriages be filled with love, compassion, and piety.

Stay tuned for more enlightening Hadiths in our “Hadith of Marriage” series. May Allah bless you all.

Wassalamu Alaik

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